Right and wrong aren’t what dictate the actions of humans, it is desire. Women-kind has had a very vocal and provocative last month, as we have had high profile cases of privacy invasion and assault, with a dash of targeted marketing. I’m speaking of the celebrity nude photo leaks, the video of NFL running back Ray Rice’s fiance being knocked unconscious, and a new nail polish that could help women detect common date rape drugs.

First off, it is never fair to blame a victim for an attack. Ray Rice’s wife Janay Palmer received universal support after the video leaked of her being knocked unconscious. To everyone who watched that video, Rice is the person at fault because he is a grown man who should know what is right from wrong and should have the self control to never cross that boundary. Regardless of whatever happened in that elevator, those two people are still in love, as they got married after that incident.

As disturbing as it might seem to the rest of us, we have no right to step in between them. We cannot fairly judge Palmer because she continues to support her husband. We cannot truly blame either of those people in that situation, all we can say is that it was illegal to strike his fiance. The term blame should only be used if it affects you personally. Without a personal attachment or involvement, there is no one to blame.

Another recent story which led to victims being blamed was when Jennifer Lawrence, Victoria Justice, Kate Upton and several other celebrities’ iCloud accounts were hacked and hundreds of nude and personal photos were leaked onto forum websites Reddit and 4chan. This is another situation where the people who are at fault are the people who committed the crimes, meaning the unknown hacker and those who watched and downloaded the photos.

Perhaps it was not wise of the celebrities uploading their personal information into the hands of Apple, where they are essentially giving up their control over their property, but that doesn’t give anyone the right to steal. Ideally, this would be how society works, but it doesn’t. There is a reason why we have a military, even though it’s wrong of another country to attack us.

Sadly, we must live our lives protecting ourselves from other people’s desires, which is why it is ridiculous that some feminists are insulting a group of male North Carolina State University students for trying to invent a nail polish that can detect “rape” drugs like Xanax, Rohypnol, and GHB.

Of course it is disappointing that there is rape in general, but that doesn’t mean men or women shouldn’t take measures to protect themselves. That is the reason why it is illegal to attempt murder or rape, because the result is just as criminal as the action or attempt. In all, blame is not a term relevant in terms of criminal activity, it is all about the rules.