Hey, sexy!

If you ask anyone, male or female, who is the most problematic, it would result in the usual stalemate in which one sex points their finger at the other and vice versa.

This seems like one of those questions that no one will ever know the real answer to because of lack of information and entirely too much opinion swimming over the matter.

Not true.

So whose fault is it? Are you right? Have you been believing a lie this whole time?

Well, while it is in my humble opinion that a man invented the “question game,” the answer to all these questions is simple: We are both to blame.

Most of the time, lust gets in the way of clear thinking, leading to a poor situation, which results to being blindsided and in comes the whole confusion over whose fault it is.

Showing acts of lust instead of affection will almost always ultimately result in dismay, therefore, people of both sexes should pay careful attention to their own signals as well as their own desires if they don’t want to end up being figuratively slapped in the face.

While there is never an excuse for using someone for pleasure or giving them a run-around and leaving them flat, sometimes the “victim” can blame no one but themselves for the outcome.

Dressing in a provocative manner and leeching their hands all over someone is not exactly showing self-respect; especially if the person doing so is looking to be serious.

Also, running after those who treat them poorly or pushing sexual wants on someone is just allowing yourself to encourage the person to take what they can get-and also makes them believe it is all you want as well.

And come on, who would say no to all of that if it was right in front of their face?

Others, however, bring negative responses on themselves as they openly show off their need to have a partner and a strong urge to be intimate, if only for a few hours.

Whether male or female, unless the person intends on only wanting sex and nothing more, one should not slobber all over the desired person then wonder why the relationship went unfulfilled, whether by means of a short-lived “passion” or it never having started at all.

I have seen too many women get their heart set on a man and let themselves loose on him, making all the wrong moves and pursuing him even after he had been long past his usefulness with regard to being a semi-decent boyfriend, only to be completely shattered to find out that their whole relationship-some lasting years-was because he was content with having sex or just having someone hang on his arm.

While it appears to be the man’s fault in this situation, perhaps if the woman had taken better care to not be blinded by lust and tried to be more realistic, she could have saved herself the pain.

Not only that, desperately chasing or flirting with someone is not how anyone gets someone to take them seriously.

On the other side of the spectrum, the man should not have used her and everyone should have the decency to hold back their animal instincts if the situation is highly inappropriate.

And true, women can partake in cat calls and shameless sexually-explicit flirting, but it is usually associated with the random man who sits by his lonesome or with select friends in a trafficked area just waiting for a chance to open his mouth.

In this case, if men want to howl at everyone they see, they should not be surprised if they get an earful of expletives or get their own tricks turned right back at them.

Men hollering and cat calling is mostly tolerated in society, but a woman who would underhandedly employ the tactics behind the cat calls is seen as an absolute horror.

If men really want to avoid an awkward situation such as that, perhaps they should reconsider their own behavior before making sharp remarks about a woman.

I am in no way justifying any such actions, but I do believe that if anyone wants a serious relationship, they should take off their blinders, which are usually created by lust, and reexamine themselves before they get too hasty with the finger-pointing.

This is all a matter of confusion in itself.

So many people mistake lust for affection, and thus trick themselves into believing they are being affectionate or that a sexual relationship means it is a loving one.

Men and women who want a serious relationship need to take their hormones down a level and act more maturely, and if they cannot, they must learn to choke down the consequences.

In fact, if anyone feels they cannot take down their hormonal unrest, they should probably think about what it is they want.

People need to be more honest with themselves and recognize that if a sexual relationship is all they want, they should not pretend to want to be serious.

After all, admitting to solely wanting casual sex would at least save them the unnecessary emotions that come from “being used.”